AITAH- For rejecting a trans person as they aren’t my type?
AITAH- For rejecting a trans person as they aren’t my type?
Edit to add- Had originally posted this in another thread and was reading comments when it was taken down for breaking rules, so if anyone who saw the og post thank you so so much for taking the time to read and comment
Not sure if this applies here. But am I the a**hole?
I am 22F and a lesbian, have been for a while now. I’ve been with men and trans people in the past and discovered it wasn’t really my thing.
Which brings me to this week. I finally decided to download a dating app that was popping up on all my socials. Figured why not meet some people, have some chats, see where things go.
So I matched with someone the other day, and we had some things in common, they seemed nice, and we got to talking, a day or so in she says that she was female thinking of transitioning to male. (Just to clarify their profile was very female presenting)
I explained as politely I could that although I just wasn’t into men trans or not. Something along the lines of „I appreciate you telling me, but I personally am not into men, you are a lovely person and I would love to remain friends in the future but I don’t think we are a good match“
She went completely 180 ranting about how I’m transphobic, disgusting, horrible, small minded, fake lgbtq, unsupportive, the whole speil, so I simply blocked and ended up deleting the app entirely.
After talking to some friends I’ve had mixed reactions, some of my friends (including my trans friends) said I was completely reasonable and did the right thing rather than letting it continue just to end things when she began the transition, and explained that it’s not everyone’s cup of tea. But others are saying I’m insensitive for letting something as trivial as that get in the way of what could have been great and that I should be more understanding about their feelings.
Which has put some doubts in my mind as to if I was an asshole, as I see it continuing this would have lead to a worse heartbreak, because I am just not attracted to men, trans or not I have never looked at a man and thought damn he’s attractive?
TLDR- AITA for not wanting to date someone because they have plans to transition, some say no, some say yes, and I’m beginning to doubt myself.